Dating in the younger years, before the brain fully develops at age 25 I think can contribute to both 1. & 2. occurring. 1. A boy in high school I went on one bad date with (I ended up covered in pork and beans and it took a week to get the smell out of my hair) drove by my home repeatedly and followed me places I was driving until I told 2 upperclassmen male friends and they threatened him with physical violence if he did not stay away. He listened. Maybe the most notable was a man I went on a date with in my 20's. Interesting man, just not my type. He would continue to show up wherever I was out with friends and sometimes would just sit on the floor and kick my chair. I just tried to ignore it, but it was noticeable enough that other people would call out his name to me when they would see me in public and laugh, even after I got engaged. 2. I think many of us have found someone so alluring, yet seemingly dishonest enough to drive by their home to see if they really are out of town like they said. Reading and watching "He's Just Not That Into You" took care of any illusions that continuing to vy for someone clearly not interested in me is a waste of energy. Someone should update that book/film to include not only "he", but "she" and "they". 3. I have not personally come across a city in the US that appears to have honestly solved homelessness to the best of their abilities. Washington D.C. was the worst I had seen during my teen years, followed by living in interior Mexico as a missionary, it takes it to another level there. I have lived and now live near Houston, TX where factors have changed over the years that seem to have worsened the homeless situation. I have met a gregarious, young man, formerly homeless, at Starbucks in Houston that told me how he used the government programs to get housing, funding, furniture and education to secure a better life. I would add to your list more incentive towards becoming bi-lingual. That is one of the biggest issues here when it comes to people getting assistance with low income housing, not enough bi-lingual speakers working in that sector.
This was a very colorful and lovely response. Thank you for taking the time to write it.
2. Did you drive by someone's house and they were there haha
3. For Houston, it's interesting that you're saying that they haven't solved their homeless problem because I've read so many things about how Houston has gotten rid of like two-thirds of their homeless issue by building a ton of affordable housing. Maybe that's just political slop I'm seeing.
Hi, Alex! I had a 350 pound fellow employee who would come by my unit in the hospital and make his interest known. I was his father’s nurse before his father died and I was nice to him. Let him know I wasn’t interested but he kept trying and telling me about his foot fetish-ewww. Eventually the hospital fired him and I retired, so that was the end of it.
It wasn't quite a stalker, but I had an online harasser. It was horrible, I had to go to the police and they were actually able to put a stop to it. No, it never occurred to me to stalk someone. I haven't been anywhere that seems to have solved the homelessness problem.
I was 99% sure that I knew who it was--a former f*** buddy--but the police had to have more than my word, so they had to contact Twitter (as it then was) and some internet service providers to see who was behind the accounts that were harassing me--Tweeting to the whole world and sending email to the public library, my place of employment, etc etc telling them that I was a rapist and so on. Ugly, ugly stuff. When the police finally got the goods, which in my mind took forever, they called the guy, who no longer lived in my town. As I recall the cops said that he claimed not to know anything about it but shortly thereafter he called the police back and dropped the dime on his new wife.
It turned out that he'd recently gotten married to a woman, and she found out he'd had sex with me (and presumably other men, too, I can't imagine that I was the only one) and she was the one doing all this, impersonating him online to say that I'd sexually assaulted him and other men. This woman put A LOT of effort into it all this.
I've never heard from him (which shows you what kind of guy he is) but I did Google him once and saw the photos of his expensive wedding. I wonder if he's still married to her? I kinda doubt it, but who knows?
Actually would you mind telling me why you liked it more? Like what is it about this piece that you thought was better than the other ones? Just so I can maybe march in that direction.
Ur life is so interesting my god (or u r just an amazing writer. Maybe both :) )
I think it’s mostly the writing part haha but thank you
Dating in the younger years, before the brain fully develops at age 25 I think can contribute to both 1. & 2. occurring. 1. A boy in high school I went on one bad date with (I ended up covered in pork and beans and it took a week to get the smell out of my hair) drove by my home repeatedly and followed me places I was driving until I told 2 upperclassmen male friends and they threatened him with physical violence if he did not stay away. He listened. Maybe the most notable was a man I went on a date with in my 20's. Interesting man, just not my type. He would continue to show up wherever I was out with friends and sometimes would just sit on the floor and kick my chair. I just tried to ignore it, but it was noticeable enough that other people would call out his name to me when they would see me in public and laugh, even after I got engaged. 2. I think many of us have found someone so alluring, yet seemingly dishonest enough to drive by their home to see if they really are out of town like they said. Reading and watching "He's Just Not That Into You" took care of any illusions that continuing to vy for someone clearly not interested in me is a waste of energy. Someone should update that book/film to include not only "he", but "she" and "they". 3. I have not personally come across a city in the US that appears to have honestly solved homelessness to the best of their abilities. Washington D.C. was the worst I had seen during my teen years, followed by living in interior Mexico as a missionary, it takes it to another level there. I have lived and now live near Houston, TX where factors have changed over the years that seem to have worsened the homeless situation. I have met a gregarious, young man, formerly homeless, at Starbucks in Houston that told me how he used the government programs to get housing, funding, furniture and education to secure a better life. I would add to your list more incentive towards becoming bi-lingual. That is one of the biggest issues here when it comes to people getting assistance with low income housing, not enough bi-lingual speakers working in that sector.
This was a very colorful and lovely response. Thank you for taking the time to write it.
2. Did you drive by someone's house and they were there haha
3. For Houston, it's interesting that you're saying that they haven't solved their homeless problem because I've read so many things about how Houston has gotten rid of like two-thirds of their homeless issue by building a ton of affordable housing. Maybe that's just political slop I'm seeing.
Hi, Alex! I had a 350 pound fellow employee who would come by my unit in the hospital and make his interest known. I was his father’s nurse before his father died and I was nice to him. Let him know I wasn’t interested but he kept trying and telling me about his foot fetish-ewww. Eventually the hospital fired him and I retired, so that was the end of it.
Do you have nice feet
It wasn't quite a stalker, but I had an online harasser. It was horrible, I had to go to the police and they were actually able to put a stop to it. No, it never occurred to me to stalk someone. I haven't been anywhere that seems to have solved the homelessness problem.
How did they put a stop to it
I was 99% sure that I knew who it was--a former f*** buddy--but the police had to have more than my word, so they had to contact Twitter (as it then was) and some internet service providers to see who was behind the accounts that were harassing me--Tweeting to the whole world and sending email to the public library, my place of employment, etc etc telling them that I was a rapist and so on. Ugly, ugly stuff. When the police finally got the goods, which in my mind took forever, they called the guy, who no longer lived in my town. As I recall the cops said that he claimed not to know anything about it but shortly thereafter he called the police back and dropped the dime on his new wife.
It turned out that he'd recently gotten married to a woman, and she found out he'd had sex with me (and presumably other men, too, I can't imagine that I was the only one) and she was the one doing all this, impersonating him online to say that I'd sexually assaulted him and other men. This woman put A LOT of effort into it all this.
I've never heard from him (which shows you what kind of guy he is) but I did Google him once and saw the photos of his expensive wedding. I wonder if he's still married to her? I kinda doubt it, but who knows?
This is my favourite post of yours so far.
Actually would you mind telling me why you liked it more? Like what is it about this piece that you thought was better than the other ones? Just so I can maybe march in that direction.
Thank youuuuu
1. Naw 2. While on dating apps, felt the rejections but no stalk 3. San Diego homeless as rough here in Denver 😓
It’s never too late to change number 2
🤣😂 Definitely could’ve without therapy