I have 3 children and I’m very proud of them; all three are college graduates. They made mistakes in their lives, but have done very well, too. Having lost my daughter, my oldest, to brain cancer, I can say that I 100% have no regrets about having her or her wonderful brothers. I think parents always worry about their children, no matter how old they are. Side note: I no longer have any pets in my house. P.S.: I once saw a friend’s chickens fight over a garter snake they’d caught. The winner ate it like a big piece of spaghetti!
Some regret having kids, but not after they got to know them if that makes sense. They love their kids, but if they had never had any, they'd probably be happier. I put blood sweat and tears into raising mine, so they came out pretty darn well ( in their 30s now). I take credit for the fact that I raised them well enough to make their own accomplishment. And when my oldest messes up in the exact same ways I did, I tell him sorry kid, bad DNA 🤣
I think this is the hardest thing to think about: "They love their kids, but if they had never had any, they'd probably be happier" — If, right after you have kids, you're anatomically brainwashed to believe you made the right decision, then it's too late. You've been kid-pilled.
Yeah mother nature really wants us to keep going. I know for sure labor brainwashes you. No mother would ever go into labor twice if she hadn't completely forgotten the whole thing.
1. Only dude who told me he had regrets was paying child support during his military service
2. N/A
3. Learned from pets & friends kiddos, partner & I are good without kids. Want to travel while still able bodied & world with social media is too chaotic to raise
Yeah, I think that's fair. It's a weird feeling that I have, being like "well, if the world ends, that's sad but I'm fine with that!" and I think having kids makes you more nervous about that for obvious reasons.
If my kids turned out bad, I still can't imagine regretting ever having them even when the payoff of all my sacrifices ended in more pain than joy and ultimately losing everything for years.
I try to only remember the good times and the joy of raising them. I give them full credit for any of their successes and yet can see when it at times stems from what I instilled in them. Or even hard life lessons. I accept their flaws equally from myself and also their fathers genetic and unintentional influences as well as the personalities of their own that have nothing to do w us. Those parts of their personality including flaws are what I enjoy most.
Ive since been now taking care of my grandson for my daughter. Bittersweet moments watching her wife and mother wonderfully but also being able to see when mistakes ive already lived through being made and I can not say anything. I just want to protect "my chickens" but they are adults now.
My son just got engaged today and he never wanted children. Not sure if he still doesn't 🤔.
I love being a mom and I love the people I made.
I agree that most of us not all hsve an internal need to care for things and I hope u and the hens find peace together again. As far as kids go I will admit that I feel its less a trap than marriage, but its not for everyone and you don't need any to live a full life identity , or will die lonely without them. Sometimes dogs cats chickens friends the outdoors or for some even jumping spiders as pets is enough. Just be sure whatever u decide u still get to travel.
You're very lucky, and it's very cool that you're so close with your family. I think a lot of people would kill to have what you have, and my fear is that maybe one day we won't have kids, and by the time we wish we had them, it'll be too late, and then we’ll be stuck with only chickens lol
Im a mother or two wonderful grown sons, and I only take credit for their flaws still! Even with therapy!
Hahah the hardest and most humbling of the options
I have 3 children and I’m very proud of them; all three are college graduates. They made mistakes in their lives, but have done very well, too. Having lost my daughter, my oldest, to brain cancer, I can say that I 100% have no regrets about having her or her wonderful brothers. I think parents always worry about their children, no matter how old they are. Side note: I no longer have any pets in my house. P.S.: I once saw a friend’s chickens fight over a garter snake they’d caught. The winner ate it like a big piece of spaghetti!
Re: your daughter, that sounds so hard, but maybe the takeaway is that anything that grows the heart is for the best.
And yeah. Chickens are way tougher than people realize. They take out dogs' eyes!
Some regret having kids, but not after they got to know them if that makes sense. They love their kids, but if they had never had any, they'd probably be happier. I put blood sweat and tears into raising mine, so they came out pretty darn well ( in their 30s now). I take credit for the fact that I raised them well enough to make their own accomplishment. And when my oldest messes up in the exact same ways I did, I tell him sorry kid, bad DNA 🤣
I think this is the hardest thing to think about: "They love their kids, but if they had never had any, they'd probably be happier" — If, right after you have kids, you're anatomically brainwashed to believe you made the right decision, then it's too late. You've been kid-pilled.
Yeah mother nature really wants us to keep going. I know for sure labor brainwashes you. No mother would ever go into labor twice if she hadn't completely forgotten the whole thing.
My friend is a sextuplet. Isn’t that nuts
Shudder.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dilley_sextuplets
Really liked this , as someone who once enjoyed keeping chickens and ducks.
But do you have kids
1. Only dude who told me he had regrets was paying child support during his military service
2. N/A
3. Learned from pets & friends kiddos, partner & I are good without kids. Want to travel while still able bodied & world with social media is too chaotic to raise
Yeah, I think that's fair. It's a weird feeling that I have, being like "well, if the world ends, that's sad but I'm fine with that!" and I think having kids makes you more nervous about that for obvious reasons.
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Great read- from chickens to Xanax - quite a ride
My new niche I am carving out
If my kids turned out bad, I still can't imagine regretting ever having them even when the payoff of all my sacrifices ended in more pain than joy and ultimately losing everything for years.
I try to only remember the good times and the joy of raising them. I give them full credit for any of their successes and yet can see when it at times stems from what I instilled in them. Or even hard life lessons. I accept their flaws equally from myself and also their fathers genetic and unintentional influences as well as the personalities of their own that have nothing to do w us. Those parts of their personality including flaws are what I enjoy most.
Ive since been now taking care of my grandson for my daughter. Bittersweet moments watching her wife and mother wonderfully but also being able to see when mistakes ive already lived through being made and I can not say anything. I just want to protect "my chickens" but they are adults now.
My son just got engaged today and he never wanted children. Not sure if he still doesn't 🤔.
I love being a mom and I love the people I made.
I agree that most of us not all hsve an internal need to care for things and I hope u and the hens find peace together again. As far as kids go I will admit that I feel its less a trap than marriage, but its not for everyone and you don't need any to live a full life identity , or will die lonely without them. Sometimes dogs cats chickens friends the outdoors or for some even jumping spiders as pets is enough. Just be sure whatever u decide u still get to travel.
You're very lucky, and it's very cool that you're so close with your family. I think a lot of people would kill to have what you have, and my fear is that maybe one day we won't have kids, and by the time we wish we had them, it'll be too late, and then we’ll be stuck with only chickens lol